When You Realize You are Complete Now, You are Free

This passage brought me so much comfort today:

Eckhart Tolle you are complete now

Moving Deeply into the Now

In the absence of psychological time, your sense of self is derived from Being, not from your personal past. Therefore, the psychological need to become anything other than who you already are is no longer there. In the world, on the level of your life situation, you may indeed become wealthy, knowledgeable, successful, free of this or that, but in the deeper dimension of Being you are complete and whole now. Continue reading “When You Realize You are Complete Now, You are Free”

Wishing you the peace of the season!

I just realized a few moments ago that my blog is now over a year old. What a difference a year in a life makes! I’ve been through a heck of a lot over the past year- my son’s heartbreak and depression, my husband’s continuing challenges with health and depression, and some other things which were pretty awful that I won’t mention…

Eckhart Tolle Whenever you deeply accept this moment as it is Continue reading “Wishing you the peace of the season!”

How to Find Inner Peace Even When You’re Cleaning the Bathroom :)

There are so many opportunities to find inner peace each day You just have to look for them

I have a long and colorful history of negativity.  Learning how to be present and not project into the future or dwell in the past is something I have to work on continually. One of the things I love to do is turn Chore Time into Spiritual Time. There are 3 things I do regularly that really help me find my inner peace:

1. I listen to spiritual podcasts when I am on the elliptical machine at the gym.

This gives me a dedicated block of time that feeds my soul. I listen to The Work of Byron Kate as well as Joel Osteen. (Both are free on Itunes.)

There is something to be said about the endorphin rush you get when you exercise- and how this can really fuel what you’re listening to. I have been lifted up out of the depths of despair doing this, especially last spring when my husband lost his job. Last spring, hearing Joel Osteen’s powerfully positive and uplifting messages regularly really help carry me through that very hard and scary time! 😀

2. I listen to my favorite spiritual audio CDs on my commute to work in the morning.

Early morning is such a beautiful time of day.  I just love taking in all the sights of the seasons. It is so ripe and full of potential, and I love noticing all the little details about the trees and the road and the sky, etc. The stillness and peace of the early morning is like a warm hug that makes everything feel ok- as long as I don’t ruin it with my thoughts that is! 😉

Listening to my favorite authors while I drive into work helps me stay focused on the present and not project dreadfully into the future. This helps me particularly on mornings when I feel stuck in a worried pattern or feel nervous. My go-to favorite to help me focus and feel good is The Power of Now.

3. I listen to Byron Katie’s Conversations on YouTube every weekend while I’m cleaning my bathrooms.

These little things may not seem like much but they can be really helpful both on the spot- -to get a soothing dose of inner peace- as well as for helping me understand spiritual concepts that I really want to learn.

 On the spot.

Last Saturday I woke up today feeling just horrible- my thoughts were running all sorts of old stories that hurt my self esteem and make me feel less than. Stuff about feeling I don’t fit in and not having enough friends…

I was doing my usual weekend housecleaning knew I would soon be doing the bathrooms and listening to Byron Katie on YouTube (her “Conversations” are excellent- just Google Byron Katie Conversations to find them). And I knew without question that I would soon be feeling better.

And I did… All I can say is WOW- message received! By listening to the video and relating to what I heard, I could understand so clearly how I was believing all my stressful thoughts  and making myself feel lonely and miserable. In less time than it took to mop the floor, I had freed myself from my pain, and was finally at peace. My mental suffering ended then and there. 🙂

(Even when I fall out of the practice of doing Judge Your Neighbor worksheets, which is the recommended way to do The Work, listening to Katie on YouTube helps so much. I highly recommend this to anyone who is suffering. Her videos just rock! 😀 )

To learn spiritual concepts.

I absolutely love The Power of Now and have had the book for years. When I first read it, it was too much-  I couldn’t understand it. I knew it was important and could help me, but it was like reading a foreign language. Listening to the book on Audio CD was a better way for me to receive the information and really “Get it”.

For example, learning to Watch My Thoughts and be their witness was something I was only able to do after listening to the book several times. With repeated listening, I could go into the practice more deeply and stay there longer.

This was also the case with Byron Katie’s book A Thousand Names for Joy. This book teaches how to find joy and bliss just by being alive and existing! …And I find the more I listen to spiritual books I love, the more I gain from them.  I have been listening to these wonderful books on my commute for almost 2 years now. There is just so much wisdom there! 😀

The peace of the early morning is like a warm hug that makes everything feel ok

Also, what a difference this makes in setting me up for a more balanced and peaceful day! Listening to spiritual audio books on my commute helps every day to feel like a wonderful new beginning, and not just another day in the rat race 🙂

Taking the time to listen to the wisdom of great spiritual teachers is a sure fire way to find inner peace. Whether you steal a few minutes on your commute, or while you’re at the gym, or even cleaning the toilets like me, it doesn’t matter. You are opening yourself up to receive the things you need to hear for your own spiritual and emotional growth and healing.

The simple practice of turning Chore Time into Spiritual Learning Time really helps keep me feel connected to others and balanced. 🙂

There are so many opportunities to find little glimpses of inner peace every day. You just have to look for them. I hope this inspires you to make the most of some of your chore time or commute time by turning it into spiritual time 🙂

xo, Lisa Arcelia

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Little mindfulness victories add up on a busy day :)

living in the moment

Although people who teach mindfulness and meditation tell you to do it with no goal in mind, I fully admit I started looking into these areas and practicing them specifically because I was so sick and tired of feeling bad all the time.  I don’t mean clinically depressed – but this bad undercurrent in that I always had some angst in my heart thinking about the future and some regret and shame from my past. And I rushed through my days at a feverish pace.

My inner angst didn’t stop me from living or working or providing or whatever, but it did affect the quality of all those things. I certainly didn’t like feeling rushed or emotional or negative or easily upset. Continue reading “Little mindfulness victories add up on a busy day :)”

A little better than yesterday

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change Jim Rohn

Bob and I still aren’t completely back on track after our weekend fight and 3 days of not speaking to each other, but damn if  the air in this house doesn’t feel so much lighter after me reaching out with a just few texts and being kind.

It takes a bit of effort to restore relationship equilibrium after we have a huge fight.

And while it’s really uncharacteristic of my husband to apologize, it is up to me to not take that personally and try to restore peace in my life.

If I want to have peace, I have to be peaceful.  Continue reading “A little better than yesterday”

How to Find Joy in a Dirty Kitchen

whatever the present moment containsThis morning I walk into the kitchen ready to start my day, and the first thing I notice is the sink full of dishes. This is the aftermath of my son who likes to cook late at night.

I also notice the dish rack is overflowing with dry dishes that haven’t been put away from last night’s dinner. Grr..

Mechanically I take a plate from the sink and rinse it open the dishwasher, only to find that it is full of clean dishes and hasn’t been emptied.

Irritated, I gaze over at the kitchen table and see my son’s prescription from the dermatologist. He needs to take this medicine back to school with him. I reminded him yesterday to drop the prescription off at Wal-mart. And there it is still laying on the table.

The recyclable garbage is full and so is the regular garbage.

And this little scenario is enough for me to lose my shit all over the place. I’ts 6:30 am on my day off and I haven’t even put the coffee on yet. And this is how I’m starting my day, feeling put out and feeling like I have to clean up after my 19 year old.

And it occurs to me…

Well, if this is my reality, and let’s be clear, this IS my reality, do I have to argue with it? Why do I automatically become negative and let my peaceful self become dark and feel bad because of nonsense like this?

Why do I give my peace away so quickly? Isn’t this how I lived for most of my life?

Do I have to be negative?

No I don’t.

My son is sleeping upstairs. He is going back to school this in 3 days. Do I really want to be in a crappy mood on one of the last days we’ll have together before he’s gone? And over something as trivial as dishes and a prescription and garbage?

No I don’t at all.

Eckhart Tolle teaches to “Accept – then act.  Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.  Always work with it, not against it. This will miraculously transform your whole life.” – The Power of Now.

Well I know for sure I am working against the present moment right now. I know that I am creating pain because I feel horrible inside.

So I do my best to Accept. And I get to work. My present moment is a messy kitchen first thing in the morning. My spiritual practice right now is to empty the dishwasher. I can do this feeling hostility and anger inside, or I can do it in peace.

I can choose to be peaceful by focusing only on the task at hand. I can take notice of how the clean plate feels and the sounds it makes as I put it away in the cupboard. And then the cups, and then the silverware. I can keep my attention focused on putting the clean dishes away.

It’s a bit of a challenge, because my mind keeps trying to go off into blaming and bashing my son and how lazy and irresponsible, etc. he is.

But again and again, I keep choosing to stay focused on and notice what I am doing. I choose not to indulge the thoughts.

And pretty soon I notice the heaviness lifts and somehow I feel better. 🙂

And I can stay in this peaceful place by continuing to stay focused on the present and simply empty the dish rack. And then do the dishes.peace comes from within dont seek it withoutAnd then I can choose to put the garbage in the garage and replace the containers with clean trash bags.

And no, this doesn’t make me a doormat to my son or to my own mind. Choosing to be peaceful and stay present while cleaning up the mess benefits me in so many ways:

A. The kitchen is clean and tidy again. Yay!

B. I turned my automatic bad mood around and saved my morning. Double yay!

C. Which is really good field practice for the next time I become automatically irritated over something. Which for me is A LOT… 😉

And the best thing:

D.  I didn’t lose my composure later that morning when I brought up the situation to my son. Maybe he’ll learn his lesson and clean up after himself next time, and maybe he won’t. Either way, I didn’t become that screaming lunatic mom, all over something that is really pretty trivial in the grand scheme of things.

Win 🙂

Today I found some real joy in the midst of my dirty kitchen. Grateful that I didn’t ruin my day or my son’s, for that matter.

Wishing you a clean kitchen 🙂

xox, Lisa Arcelia

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Present Moment Awareness Brings Inner Calm

present moment awareness brings inner calm

I have lost touch with the present moment and therefore have no inner calm. Here is a short worksheet doing The Work (mentioned in my last post) on one of my stressful thoughts…

I perceive the outside world as hostile and that makes me anxious.

Is it true?


Can you absolutely know that it’s true that the outside world is hostile?


How do you react when you believe the outside world is hostile?

Unprepared, like I have to cover up, small, exposed, vulnerable…

And who would you be without the thought?

Happy, calm.  At peace.


The outside world is kind.

People are kind, nature is kind,

My thinking is hostile.

Yes! My thinking about the outside world is hostile. It plays over and over how I am different or how someone or something is to be feared. It keeps me separate and isolated from really connecting with others and the world itself.

When my thinking is aligned with the present moment, without all those mind-made stories and thoughts attached to it, I achieve an inner calm. I am free from the burden of  my mind.

Reality is kind indeed 🙂

Thank you Lord.

Lisa Arcelia xox

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