When You Realize You are Complete Now, You are Free

This passage brought me so much comfort today:

Eckhart Tolle you are complete now

Moving Deeply into the Now

In the absence of psychological time, your sense of self is derived from Being, not from your personal past. Therefore, the psychological need to become anything other than who you already are is no longer there. In the world, on the level of your life situation, you may indeed become wealthy, knowledgeable, successful, free of this or that, but in the deeper dimension of Being you are complete and whole now. Continue reading “When You Realize You are Complete Now, You are Free”

Wishing you the peace of the season!

I just realized a few moments ago that my blog is now over a year old. What a difference a year in a life makes! I’ve been through a heck of a lot over the past year- my son’s heartbreak and depression, my husband’s continuing challenges with health and depression, and some other things which were pretty awful that I won’t mention…

Eckhart Tolle Whenever you deeply accept this moment as it is Continue reading “Wishing you the peace of the season!”

A Happy Weekend

The last month has been busy for me. I have been working, going to my therapy, communicating with my husband, and being there for my son.

And now fall is here. This is my absolute favorite time of year. I took Buddy for a nice long walk first thing this morning around 2 lakes in the middle of my little town. It was cool and cloudy and raining a little. I don’t know why but I love this weather.

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Today is a special day. My son is making his first trip back up to school to spend time with his friends. My brother-in-law is coming up to spend time with my husband. And I am going to New York City for the weekend with my 2 good girlfriends. So much to be grateful for! Continue reading “A Happy Weekend”

Little by little we are healing

In the days after I realized how emotionally depressed my son was I found myself in a lot of fear. Terror actually. I felt like my whole world was falling apart. But then I slowly began to connect with others. Other mothers who had been through their children’s traumas. Other people who had survived their own depression and anxiety.

Fear not little flock for it is your Fathers good pleasure to give you the kingdom

One thing I told myself when all this happened- I was NOT going to isolate from others. Years ago I would have held all this pain in and carried it around in me like a big dark secret. But I have learned that keeping secrets keeps you sick.

I am not going around shouting my miseries and woes to everyone and anyone. But it is important for me to share my life and what I am going through with others who are close to me- my friends and family. Continue reading “Little by little we are healing”

Choosing not to freak out

I read Viktor Frankl’s book “Man’s Search for Meaning” a few times when I was younger.  This man lost his entire family and survived a Nazi concentration camp, despite tremendous odds.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing the last of the human freedoms to choose ones attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose ones own way Viktor Frankl

His message of choosing one’s response to any set of difficult circumstances resonated deeply with me, and still does today. Continue reading “Choosing not to freak out”

Having patience while my son is depressed

My beautiful son is suffering a lot and all I can do is stand by and watch. His girlfriend (his first love) broke his heart in a cruel and calculating way. He is devastated. Was not able to make it back to school for this semester.

He is deeply depressed and has gone to a very low and dark space.
I am doing my best to be a quiet, loving, presence and just be there for him. I am loving him. There is nothing else I can do. And I know that this too shall pass, eventually…

The sunlight and shadows and stillness of the early morning kitchen surround me. All this shit came to a head only 5 days ago.

He is asleep. Today we will get some medication that will help him as he lives through his depression.

I am blessed to be here with him. I am so grateful he is home and not away at school. He won’t let me do anything, but I can watch him and be here. I am praying to my grandparents in heaven who watch over us and love us and help us.

Eventually you will come to realize that love heals everything, and love is all there is Gary Zukav

He has a flat affect most of the time, but sometimes he comes back alive a little bit.

He has a good rapport as far as I can tell with the therapist I found for him. He is going again today.

The only thing I bought on vacation this years was a candle and some incense. They are being put to good use now, when I remember. Sitting silently is what I do a lot of the day while he sleeps. The light of the candle and the spicy aroma of the incense stick is nice.

I have been exasperated and overwhelmed. I am going to start seeing a therapist tomorrow.

Self Care Diary: Because Vacation Is a Lot of Work

Yesterday I got home from vacation with my family. We went to Chatham, Massachusetts, which is a lovely New England beach town in Cape Cod. I took excellent care of myself on vacation and that is the topic of this post.

Self care is always one of my top priorities. When you treat yourself well, your body and mind respond in kind. Also, it demonstrates to others (your spouse, your children, etc.) that you care about yourself, and this can rub off on them. Well, hopefully, that is…

how i took care of myself on vacation this year

But before I tell you what I did for my self care, to maintain my sanity and my composure, let me illustrate the nuances of this vacation. Continue reading “Self Care Diary: Because Vacation Is a Lot of Work”

Using The Inner Body to Bring You Inner Peace

In order to fully accept things as they arise in our life, we need to be in touch with our bodies. That’s why as a practice, body awareness is very helpful.

focus on your inner aliveness

Inner Body Awareness is a way to achieve a state of stillness and peace. This is where you concentrate on feeling the energy or “aliveness” in your body. Your body then anchors you in the present moment.

For those of you that don’t yet know how to do this, I will show you later in this post 🙂

But first I want to share with you some of the wonderful benefits I have noticed by doing this consistently… Continue reading “Using The Inner Body to Bring You Inner Peace”

How To Accept Things That Irritate Us

So many times we hear about the importance of Acceptance. But how can we really practice acceptance? How can we do it effectively and completely?

How can we accept what arises in the moment without suffering too much?

95 of unhappiness is generated

Acceptance is hard! Continue reading “How To Accept Things That Irritate Us”